For Supporters
Ways to support someone in an abusive relationship or household
Do:
- Be supportive
- Be non-judgmental
- Practice active listening.
- Ask them how you can help.
- Encourage them to seek help.
- Educate yourself on domestic violence and dating violence and be prepared with helpful resources.
Don’t:
- Blame a survivor
- Confront the abuser yourself
Domestic violence and dating violence are serious issues, and those who have experienced abuse have a greater risk of:
- Developing eating disorders.
- Experiencing symptoms of anxiety and/or depression.
- Abusing illegal substances.
- Engaging in risky sexual behavior.
- Contemplating or committing suicide.
- Adopting abusive patterns in their future relationships.
There are many reasons why people stay in abusive relationships. Always support the victim, even if they return to their abuser.
- Acknowledge that they are in a very difficult, scary and dangerous situation
- Encourage them to talk to people who can provide help
- Encourage them to participate in activities outside of the relationship
- Help them develop a safety plan